Updates And Blog Sale

Hello my fellow polish sisters…and brothers? I’m sorry that I haven’t been online much the last couple of days and haven’t posted much here and on my other social media accounts (youtwitfacerest). This is mainly because I’ve been having some issues, and I didn’t want my posts to turn into a pity party of one, but I do want to let you all know that I am hoping this is just all a temporary setback.

If you have read my posts in the last month or so, you probably know that I’m looking for work–like a million other people. The holidays have been tough because it seems that employers have been on hiring lockdown for a while and maybe they are also on vacation mode.  I’ve been trying not to let the lack of job prospects to get me down, but it really is a huge effort on my part not to flip out every day. I don’t think I have *EVER* experienced this level of financial strain in my life so it’s something that I am learning to deal with and handle in the most level-headed way possible. I’ve been trying to put a positive spin on every new setback, and I think I have been doing pretty well. I have plenty of things to be grateful for so I want to keep focusing on the positive and continue to get my life in order.

One of the things I am beyond grateful for is that I am no longer struggling with the horrid pit of depression that took hold of my life for the past 2 years. I feel good in my skin right now, and that’s not something I have felt in a long time so I am extremely grateful for that. I don’t think I would be able to deal with stress of my current financial predicaments if I was still struggling with debilitating depression and anxiety. I still have my days where I am feeling really down on myself, but the good days far outnumber the bad so I am hopeful that my positive attitude and outlook will guide me through this rough patch. Money is just money at the end of the day. Yes, we all need it to live, but how many people have struggled through similar situations and come out stronger on the other side? YOU might be going through something similar now so just remember that you are not alone and that things can and will improve.

When I first started my blog sale, I wanted it to be a purge of sorts. I wanted to get rid of some of the over 1,000 bottles of nail polish that I had in my stash because I found that I wasn’t really using them much. I had purchased a huge chunk of them while I was going through my depression because pretty shiny things made me feel better during that time. I never thought I would sell so many of them in such a short period of time!!! Now, that money has gone to my savings account and has been extremely helpful in giving me a little cushion so I don’t feel so stressed out about my finances in the coming months. Thank you so much to all of the lovely ladies who have purchased from my blog sale–some of you more than once, twice or three times!! You don’t know how much that has helped me.

This post is in no way intended to be whiney nor am I asking for pity or sympathy. I’ve always been pretty transparent when it comes to my personal struggles because I know there are other people out there who understand and may need a little pep talk themselves. My blog has never been about sharing misery, but about letting people know how I deal with things. If I have brought a smile or thought of understanding to anyone out there, then I know I have achieved one of my goals. 🙂 So many of you have reached out to me privately to offer words of encouragement or to share your personal experiences and that means the world to me.

And finally, since I am still trying to find new homes for my oodles of polishes, please check out my blog sale. (Yes, this is a shameless plug!)  I’ve added so many new items so you may find something you like.

Thanks for reading and talk to you soon.


22 thoughts on “Updates And Blog Sale

  1. It makes it so much easier for me to justify buying polish from you that I don’t NEED, now that I know its helping you out. I’ll be checking out your list after the kiddos get to bed tonight!

  2. Hey my friend, I’m bummed to hear that you are having no luck finding work. It sucks. We have been there, more than once and even though we are good now, I’m still always wondering if the “other shoe will drop”. To sum it up quick, we moved cross country for my husband’s new job in 2010. He was there for just 5 months and they let him go. I was home with the kids at the time (one of the reasons we took the opportunity in the first place) and the sudden “hey, we don’t need you anymore” left us both jobless and stunned. It took FOREVER (at least 6 months) and us both agreeing to move pretty much anywhere before he found something. Thats when we move to Jersey. I feel like everything happened for a reason in retrospect (so cliche, I know-I know), but if we hadn’t done that first move, we probably never would’ve considered NJ, and now I am happier than I’ve been in the longest time. I’ll be sending tons of positive vibes your way!!! What field do you work in? Maybe I know someone who knows someone?
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    1. Those are the kinds of things I like to hear…not that you had such a rough time, but that in the end you are super happy. That sounds like it was terrible to go through and I’m definitely happy for you now that things have settled down. I think it’s fairly normal to feel that things are super uncertain–nowadays, I don’t think there is such a thing as job security whatsoever. Thank you for your encouraging words and I’ll take all the positive vibes I can get! 🙂 Since my early 20’s I’ve been working in an office environment. The last 5 years have been in Sales/Customer Service Management. I’ve done pretty much everything over the years (reception work, customer service, sales, marketing, call center, admin assistant) At this point, I am pretty much open to anything. 🙂 I am feeling good in the sense that I feel things will pick up once the holidays are past us–I just can’t let myself get all freaked out and negative because that’s not going to help me at all!

  3. I don’t know you personally, but I’d love to tell you my story, maybe it will help you and hopefully someone else feel a bit better 🙂

    My problems started in my early 20’s. Things were going great, I had a good job, nice home, great hubby, etc. We were in a serious car accident, which left me hurt and traumatized – a school custodian was driving a van full of kindergarteners to a school function and failed to yield, which caused us to t-bone them at about 55 miles an hour. 2 of the children had to be admitted to the hospital with serious injuries. So that was when my depression and anxiety began. Even though we were not at fault, we were treated horribly by everyone at the accident scene for being young, tattooed people that happened to hit a van of kindergarteners. As if we didn’t feel bad enough for the kids 🙁 Anywho, due to my injuries I had to go through a year of physical therapy, becoming addicted to my prescription pain pills and my anti-anxiety medication, xanax during that time. I never returned to my job, I didn’t have the confidence in myself anymore. My husband, also became addicted to my meds and we even got to the point we were drinking daily too. Before we realized it we lost our home, he lost his job, we even lost our cars. We literally hit rock bottom.

    Now, I won’t go into all the details (they weren’t pretty) but, we’ve both been sober since April 2011. My husband is now the store manager for an auto parts store (actually a step up from his previous job), we have a nice apartment in one of the best neighborhoods in OKC, and we both drive nice shiny Mustangs 🙂 It took a lot of hard work and dedication for us to get to where we are now from where we were just a couple years ago. I do still have days that I feel, um, semi-depressed, but there’s 2 quotes I like to think of when I’m feeling particularly down…
    1. This too shall pass.
    2. Things could always be worse.
    I know the second quote far too well. Anywho, I hope you or you other readers don’t get freaked out by my story. It actually felt good to open up like that, there aren’t many people that know me personally and know what I’ve been though. I know what I’ve said really has nothing to do with job-hunting, but hopefully it will make you or someone else feel a little better about their current situation 🙂 Things will get better. You’ve apparently done an awesome job so far, just hang in there!

    1. You are an inspiration. I am so sorry that you have had to go through all that, but I am really happy that you have been able to move forward. I know things aren’t always easy and that we will always have THOSE days, but overall you are right: things could always be worse. I feel cheesy saying this but this week I kept thinking of that line from It’s A Wonderful Life: “no man is a failure who has friends” and I feel like the richest girl alive right now because of the outpouring of friendship and camaraderie. Thank you so much for sharing your story with me and with other people who read my blog. <3

  4. Sorry to hear about the job problems.. I know it’s tough right now, we’ve been looking for another job for my boyfriend for months and there just is nothing. Literally, nothing. But at least he has a job now. Glad to hear your depression is under control.. been feeling pretty depressed myself lately so I know what it’s like. Dealing with money issues is definitely more difficult when you’re dealing with anxiety and depression, I know that too well! Good luck with the blog sale, sorry I can’t help you out!
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    1. I’m sorry you’re dealing with the depression monster. It’s just so difficult to deal with everyday pressures when you’re also trying to keep your head above water because of depression and anxiety. I hope you start feeling better soon. You already help with your kind words!

  5. Although it is a hard time in your life right now, you should feel proud that you have overcome what you have and you are taking on these current problems in a strong way. 2013 is just around the corner and I am sure that things will pass and you’ll be feeling less pressure soon. I hope so at least. Wishing you all the best and looking forward to reading your blog in 2013.
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  6. Wish I could give you a hug Cynthia! I can relate with you on the unemployment and some level of depression. I don’t know if you recall my month long break from blogging this past summer, but most of the reason behind that was due to unemployment, financial stress and the depression that came with it. The past 2 years I had a steady job that paid more than any other job I had before, then things went down hill w/ my boyfriend’s job (that we had moved out of state for) and to cut it short I left my job and we both moved back home. I found myself living with my parents again and unemployed for 6 months…All the money I had saved from my job was disappearing (I even resorted to selling my rarest Nerd Lacquer on Ebay 🙁 ). With the depression of living at home, unemployment, financial stress, and then throwing in a severe blow to my personal life I found it was too painful to even be awake let alone blog about polish. Things finally turned around a little this past autumn when I was hired for a long term temp position and enrolled in classes for a certification that will hopefully help me find a permanent job. I’m not making nearly as much as I was before, and unfortunately I will be unemployed again when my assignment ends this February, but the past few months gave me some sort of relief and I’m just hoping I can make it through the next few until I finish my classes in June.
    So believe me, I know the feeling of never seeing the end of the dark tunnel of job searching. I had MANY breakdowns from getting no responses to giving kick ass interviews and still not getting the job. I’m staying hopeful for you! You’re an intelligent, witty and sweet woman so your time will come 🙂 Just remember, it’s not you…it’s them. Seriously! 😉
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    1. <3 It makes me sad to hear that so many of us are dealing with so many freaking issues because of unemployment. Times are so freaking tough–I have never had to deal with such a messed up situation before so I just have to keep playing it by ear. I think that as long as I don't completely give up, things will work out. If things continue to just suck, I am seriously going to go stand at a freeway offramp with a sign and a stack of resumes and give them to people when they are waiting at the light. That is not a joke. lol

      I'm sorry you had to sell your NL…I'm not feeling sad about selling off my polish because I know that I can always buy stuff again once I'm back on my feet, but it would hurt so bad if I had to sell my special polishes that I can't really replace.

      I don't want to sound full of myself, but I am an awesome employee!!! I work so hard, I'm smart and always get along with everyone. SOMEONE HIRE ME! lol

      I am glad that you got a little break from the horrible work search stress and that you are taking some classes that will help you get a job. I hope that we both find something soon! Thank you for your encouraging words. <3
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  7. Looking for work is kind of demoralizing. You look for a job you want, maybe you get some calls back, maybe even an interview or two, don’t get those jobs so you think, “Oh well, there are lots of people looking for work, I’ll keep trying.” Then you look for more jobs and there aren’t any that you like, so then you go down the rung to jobs you’d tolerate. Maybe you get an interview, you think it goes SUPER WELL and honestly you’re overqualified so you think you’re a shoe-in and then you don’t get those jobs so you’re like, “Mannn it really is tough out here.” Then you keep looking and can’t even find any jobs you’d easily tolerate so then you look for jobs that just have regular hours and that pay money and that don’t involve poles or pimps. You don’t get those jobs and then pretty soon you realized you’re depressed because you didn’t even get a call back from some shitty obscure job that quite frankly you don’t even want and then you think, “I should have just worked at McDonald’s straight out of high school. Why did I go to college? Why do I have degrees? It does nothing for me. Life sucks.” You eventually pull out of that and start over at the top looking for a job that you like. At least that’s my story. I took a hiatus from job searching at Christmastime but I’m back on the hunt… starting tomorrow. Good luck to you and to me. Oh and- I’m really really really happy for you that you continue on the up and up depression-wise. You are so good at remaining positive and keepin on keepin on that it’s hard for me to believe you’re the same person whose blog I read a year ago. It’s weird how depression does that. Once you’re out of the woods so to speak it’s hard to imagine why you were how you were in the first place.
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  8. I am planning to respond to this in the email I *still* owe you because, again, there are many similarities between you and me!
    I am glad that your blog sale has become so helpful for you. You seriously did add some major stuff with this update! 😉

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